Email Guidelines

I did some accounting over 2025, and discovered my companionship email time averages 6-8 hours a day, 3-4 days a week. That’s up to 36 hours of email time alone, barring time for newsletters, social media, other admin, actual dates (you know, the point of it all) and of course email and other admin time in my personal life. I value warm, real connections (not to mention data privacy,) so I very much want to avoid resorting to an impersonal personal assistant. *psst* Also, those sweet lower rates on the left for each date option? Following all of these email guidelines is part of how you get them. ;-)

Here’s how you can help me tame this beast:

When reaching out for a date request, please always include the following in your very first email:

1) the date (or dates) you’re available 2) the time range you’re available on that date(s) 3) how long you’d like to connect 4) if you want to host, or if you’d like me to host. And if there are specifics for the date, like preferences on where you’d like to go to dinner, an activity, or something kept just between the two of us, please include that too. This cuts the numbers down from sometimes up to 9 or 10 emails (no, really, and sometimes more) for shorter dates to 3-4 (yours, mine, yours) for dates up 8 hours, and up to 5-6 for more extended affairs.

Please stay concise

A girlfriend used to include the following in her signature line “for your time and mine, I limit my emails to 5 sentences.” (Amazingly, she stuck to it!) Now of course, 5 sentences may not quite cut it when you’re new and have questions, or we’re planning a full day affair. But, please ask yourself-is this content relevant to planning our adventure, or can I wait to share it in person?

Let me reiterate that questions and thoughts ARE welcome as we get to know each other. They’re a natural part of the first (and sometimes second and third) date process until we really feel comfortable and understand each other. But, please keep those questions related to making that in person connection, and not, say, my favorite color.

Email to cancel or change, not to confirm

Before writing to confirm, please ask yourself-has Eve ever forgotten or canceled a date without telling me? (No. For every one of you, the answer is no.) And have you ever forgotten or canceled on me without telling me? (The answer is still no.) And if the answer is no, please don’t write to confirm. We’re adults here. Barring getting hit by a bus on the way to each other (at which point a confirmation is moot,) I trust we’ll both keep our promises to each other, unless we explicitly cancel otherwise.

Please don’t email me to tell me you can’t see me right now, or to share this thing you saw that made you think of me, or for any reason other than to plan a date, UNLESS you are signed on for paid emails. (See “Love Notes” on my date packages page.)

I love that you are thinking about me. Believe it or not, I am often thinking about you! But I also know how busy life can be, and I trust you’ll see me when you can. And for all the fun “thinking of you” funny moments-please share them with me in person so you can make my face light up with the fun thoughts! If correspondence in between dates is a really valuable part of your experience, I’ve provided an option for paid emails. Please see “Love Notes” on my date packages page.

Lastly, please DO keep the after date thank you’s and (if/when inspired) newsletter feedback coming.

Newsletter feedback helps me know if I’m hitting the right chords with you. I may not always be able to respond, but welcome (brief) notes on your thoughts or feedback!

And, saying thank you and I’m sorry early and often is a top value for me. Our in person time together has been, and remains, an immensely powerful force in my life. These precious relationships remain both healing and inspiring, often taking my life in new directions. (And it seems sometimes for you, my cherished friends as well!